I’m instituting a new once-a-week post: My Opinion Monday. It’s inspired by the fabulous Karen over at WritefromKaren and her “In My Opinion” posts. So, when she posts a question, I’ll just go ahead and answer it here. It is after all, my opinion.
List five things you want your children (or your nieces/nephews if you don’t have children) to know before they grow up.
Here’s my opinion:
First, I want my three children to be rooted in the rock of Christ. They need to have faith before they can defend it. “Just because” doesn’t fly when people are pounding on them from all sides questioning their beliefs.
Second, I want them to know how to balance a checkbook. More than that, I want them to understand how finances work and what credit is and is not. We’ve already got our eldest started on Financial Peace Jr. and it seems to be working. Of course, it helps that we, his parents, are modeling the principles of Financial Peace University. They need to be responsible with the money they have and be able to provide for themselves and their families as well as give to worthwhile causes and save.
Third, I want my boys to be able to finish household chores without being asked. While it doesn’t seem that big of a deal, they’re learning how to maintain a home. By cleaning their rooms, washing the dishes, or taking out the trash, the skills they are learning will be useful all of their lives. And their wives will thank my husband and I later for it.
Fourth, I want them to be able to make decisions based on logic and tempered with faith. They will get into all sorts of situations once they’re grown and, I hope, they will be able to determine the best course of action by praying about it, thinking about it, asking questions, and then acting.
Fifth, I want my beautiful boys to know how to laugh and find joy. While not every point of life will be a rose garden, if they keep their sense of humor and have faith, they will be able to make it through just about anything. To find joy in the darkest of moments and knowing God is still with them no matter how badly it pours is something that will give them comfort all throughout their lives.
And while these are the top five, I also want my children to have purpose. I want them to feel as though they are part of God, of their community and church, and the world as a whole. I want them to be able to know why they were put on this earth for and to be joyful in their pursuit of it. To know that I love them and that I cherish all the moments we have together.
So, what are the top five things you want your kids to know before they grow up? Let me know!



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April 6, 2009 at 9:41 pm
gigidiaz
I think it’s great that you are teaching your boys to be good husbands by helping around the house without them even knowing it. Yes, their future wives will certainly thank you!
April 10, 2009 at 3:51 pm
Lizzie
great “opinions” have a good weekend!
Happy Easter & Happy VGNO
April 10, 2009 at 9:30 pm
April Hayman
Thanks, Lizzie! Have a Happy Easter!
April 10, 2009 at 3:55 pm
Anissa
Happy VGNO
Hope you have a wonderful Easter weekend!
My two boys love to help around the house. I have a 14, and a 3 year old.
My daughter is 9.
April 10, 2009 at 9:30 pm
April Hayman
Mine do to but the two smaller ones are, well, small. But one day they’ll be able to clean without being asked. Have a fabulous Easter and thanks for stopping by!
April 10, 2009 at 4:14 pm
Hangingwithmrscooper
You are setting your guys up to be great men. My hats off to you. Happy Easter. Stopping in from the VGNO
April 10, 2009 at 9:30 pm
April Hayman
Thank you so much! Have a Happy Easter!
April 10, 2009 at 5:49 pm
blueviolet
Those are all wonderful things to want for your children. Happy VGNO!
April 10, 2009 at 9:29 pm
April Hayman
Thank you and have a Happy Easter!
April 10, 2009 at 6:20 pm
Sanewithoutdrugs
Happy VGNO. If only there were 5 things for my kids to know… they would be so happy!! I am just too full of advice. I trap them in the car to hear it all.
April 10, 2009 at 9:11 pm
April Hayman
LOL Good for you! If it’s the only way to make them listen…..
Thanks for stopping by and Happy Easter!
April 10, 2009 at 6:24 pm
Ali
Yes! Dave Ramsey ROCKS! And check out http://www.flylady.net if you haven’t already, she is awesome with ideas for cleaning and teaching the kids about it too. Happy VGNO and have a great Easter weekend =)
April 10, 2009 at 9:11 pm
April Hayman
I will definitely check out flylady.net! We’re about 2/3 the way through FPU and it’s been fabulous! We already practice some of what he teaches but the investing part is what we really needed. I love the entire course and I visit his site regularly.
Have a happy Easter!
April 10, 2009 at 6:29 pm
pam
Great to meet you tonight at the party!
Have a wonderful weekend and a Happy Easter:)
April 10, 2009 at 9:10 pm
April Hayman
Thank you so much for stopping by! Have a great Easter!
April 10, 2009 at 6:55 pm
Marta
My boys are grown up now, but I wanted to teach my kids
1.How to be great fathers and husbands
2.How to make their own decisions based on a thorough knowledge of the issue and not just think what they were told to think
3. That life isn’t fair. Everyone has crap happen to them in their life. It’s how you deal with it that is the important thing.
4. That there are three sides in a marriage his, hers and the truth.
5. I wanted them to be the kind of young men that others looked at and wanted their kids to grow up to emulate.
I’m proud to say that mine are now 23 & 24. One is married and expecting a baby and the other is getting married. They are both wonderful men. Neither smoked, drank, did drugs or believed in pre-marital sex. Both are strong in their walk with Christ. One is a DJ at a christian radio station. The other is going to seminary to become a Minister.
I AM BLESSED!
Thanks for helping me remember that on this wonderful weekend!
Happy Easter and Happy VGNO!
April 10, 2009 at 9:08 pm
April Hayman
Wow! You really are blessed! I hope to achieve something similiar with my boys when they are grown. Thank you so much for stopping by and sharing that with me. I really appreciate it. You have a very Happy Easter!
April 10, 2009 at 7:14 pm
Raquel
I love to eat chocolate bunnies. Good luck with your children.
Happy VGNO!
April 10, 2009 at 9:00 pm
April Hayman
Thanks so much for stopping by. Have a Happy Easter!
April 10, 2009 at 7:28 pm
Jan
I love all the things you are teaching your boys..good work Mom… your children will rise up and call you Blessed!
oh,and happy VGNO too!
Jan
April 10, 2009 at 9:00 pm
April Hayman
Thank you! Have Happy Easter!
April 10, 2009 at 7:43 pm
Ivette
Oh, I love this post. This is one I’ll really have to think about. Happy VGNO!